To children and adolescents with developmental and behavioral challenges, rapport and successful social interactions feel unattainable.
There are so many nuances that are nonverbal in nature, which can make or break an encounter. They are also a part of what we call “hidden curriculum” – those things which are expected but never directly taught. Robert Whipple writes for leaders in different industries about how to build rapport and not blow the deal. If leaders need direct instruction and training, with modeling and feedback, why do we find it so hard to understand that our special needs pediatric population can get by with just at the moment corrections, or worse yet, negative consequences as if what they did was totally volitional?
What do you think? Should we look to the business coaches and trainers to help us bring these skills to children and adolescents with developmental & behavioral challenges? We definitely aren’t all that successful with the current educational and mental health models of intervention.
We all know that the first few minutes when meeting a new person or client are critical to the relationship. Malcolm Gladwell referred to the “thin slices” of meaning we interpret subconsciously when meeting someone new. His contention is that a relationship is basically established after just a few seconds, so it is important to know what to do and what to avoid doing in this critical period.
While we know the vital importance of body language and tone of voice, few of us have received any formal training on what things to do and to avoid to maximize the potential for good rapport and trust. The overarching objective is to let your natural personality and essence shine through as well as be sincerely interested in learning the qualities of the other person. This means making sure all the signals you send are congruent with your true nature and being…
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