Our society has a long history of assuming guilt and ulterior motives for any and all mishaps. Especially when dealing with children, we need to change our approach to assuming that they want to do well but don’t have all the knowledge and skill needed. As we get better at that way of thinking, hopefully the same approach will be applied to the rest of our society.
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If you have siblings, you remember the drill very well. Your mother comes in and says, “Who knocked over the lamp in the living room?” Of course, nobody knows. She looks around at the children, and each of them is playing dumb. Since she cannot determine whom to blame, she announces the punishment, “Then none of you will get dessert for the rest of the week.”
Group punishments for the sins of a single individual are more common than we think. It happens in the military on a daily basis. If nobody owns up to a misdeed, the entire platoon is penalized with the same punishment as the single guilty soldier would have received. The logic is that one person really is guilty, and the remaining people are guilty of covering up for him, so everyone suffers equally. The leverage is that it puts peer pressure on the guilty person…
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