Have you ever noticed that the number quoted about high risk problems all seem to settle on or at one in six? This would mean that the vast majority of us live okay lives. But for those who live at the left far end of the bell curve, it means excessive stressors and dysfunction.
Here is a link to a recent article I published on LinkedIn, looking at the concerns of these children. Society sees these children as challenging since the stressors frequently lead to unwanted behavior and our feeling that we must control it.
I have just found an article that provides 10 reasons why spanking is not effective. The reasons are all well thought out and are backed by the latest research on child development, especially brain development. I would like to hear what you think about the article and also about my insights.
Too many people take teachers for granted. And they blame them for children not achieving. But, as Hillary Clinton said, it takes a village to raise a child. We need to support each other in helping all children achieve, even if their needs, in order to achieve, are different from the majority of students.
I just got back from 6 days of speaking (3 in Ohio and 3 in Northern California) and I can tell you that there are professionals out there who are looking at how to help the children who function differently. These are the one in six children who have a neurodevelopmental disorder – 1) intellectual disorders, 2) communication disorders, 3) autism spectrum disorders, 4) ADHD, 5) learning disorders, and 6) motor disorders. These children process life differently and need teachers, mentors, and coaches to make the time to teach them the strategies and coping mechanisms to feel functional in the mainstream world of our communities. It is not easy and it is not fast, and YES, it is very tiring. But as this blog states, it does make a difference. It does help keep these children out of jail as they get older.
We still have a long way to go, but believing that as you learn about these children and find people who can help you develop strategies to engage them in learning and understanding social interaction, you will be part of that village that will successfully raise our children.
It is the middle of September and you are already tired. It is scary isn’t it? This tired feeling so early in the school year. If this is what September feels like, how will we ever make it to Thanksgiving? How will we ever survive until May? There is just so much to do. So many new programs to learn, new formats to master, new IEPs and 504 Plans and accommodations to keep track of. It isn’t that you don’t want to do all of things, it is just. There are all of the things. All of the things all of the time, and every year it seems as though there is a new system in place. It will get easier, they say. Once you get used to it. You would like two years with the same program and the chance to get used to it all.
Early language acquisition is instinctive, but parents can have a big impact on accelerating development. Here are some tips to help get kids talking.
Dr. Pat McGuire‘s insight:
How well does your child speak? Where did he learn? These are important questions that are closely related to how you, her parent, interacted with her during daily activities.
This is an extremely well written article that helps you learn the steps and strategies that will help your child develop a well developed language system. And guess what, it doesn’t cost anything but time playing and interacting with your child!
Let me know how many of these strategies you are using with your children. I would also love to hear of additional strategies that you found helpful.
Going to bed at a regular time every night could give your child’s brain a boost, recent research shows.
Dr. Pat McGuire‘s insight:
This is an important new study that looks at many factors that affect children’s cognitive (brain thinking) functions. After taking into account everything from TVs in the room to skipping breakfast, the biggest negative factor on brain development was an inconsistent bed time. Do you ask why? It is simple. Our brains have a rhythm for when we feel tired, when we naturally wake up, when we are hungry, etc. By altering it too much, we affect the brain’s natural growth and development cycle, thus making learning harder for children.
Bottom line, have a set bedtime and stick to it, except for very rare exceptions. This means in bed, even if the child doesn’t fall asleep right away. And keep the electronics out of the bedroom so that the children don’t delay their bedtime by tuning in rather than tuning out.
This is a great article to remind us about the unintended (mostly) messages that we send new mothers every day. I know that with my first child – who was born with PMS!!! – I always felt like I was doing things wrong. I feared that my every decision would ruin her life forever. And I am a developmental pediatrician!
Now think about the effects of your comments on parents with children experiencing developmental and behavioral challenges. You are not in their shoes. You don’t know what they have tried and not tried to “get” their child to behave or do their school work.
And what about the things you say to the child who is struggling? I have actually talked to these children and teens for the last 30 years and they all say the same thing. “If I could be who you want me to be, I would do it in a second.” They hate being the focus of criticism or pity. They want to be competent. But it is not coming naturally and no one is taking the time to teach them or find someone who can.
Let’s think harder before we speak to others. Think about our intended meaning and the possible other meanings that may be taken from what we say. You just may help someone feel loved, accepted, and respected.